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is it time to give up and fulfill my destiny?

by joining a Convent?

Let me tell you it is very tempting right now.

So after Mr Cheap there was a bit of a lull (just over three weeks – yes my friends give me complete crap for this – “you always have a man on the go!“) in the men department. Then Friday we had a work BBQ with our big umbrella of companies (not just the people I work with on a daily basis) where I met Marine Man. He’s awesome. I had met him once before when he popped by my workplace, it was only very brief, but I thought he was cute in a manly, tan, outdoors man with curly dark hair type of look.

So anyway we hit it off on Friday night, conversation was easy, lots of laughing, lots of flirting, all very fun until near the end of the night when I found out he had a girlfriend. Of 12 (on and off – apparently) years. Fuck! Are you being serious right now?!?! To be honest I switched off him right then. What kind of guy flirts away like that when he has a girlfriend at home?

But of course I am Bronnie, and would there be something to blog about if it stopped right there? Plus of course there was wine involved…

Yes. Later on that night we started texting. He went home, I went into town with one of his mates, a friend of mine and another work person. I had asked his mate for his number so I could text him to find when the gate would be open so I could rescue my car from their security. Totally innocent. Then the wine must have kicked in and I lost all inhibitions, in Bronnie-style. So I replied to his text saying I’d had a fun night with him and thought he was cute.

He didn’t reply.

Right, screw this I thought to myself. I didn’t text again, decided it was best left alone. Until Monday morning, 7.30am I get a text from him. “Sorry I never replied on Friday night, my gf read the text. thanks for the compliment though ;) “.

So basically he couldn’t text me all weekend while he was around his girlfriend. From there it was a day of flirty texts between us, and we discovered there was a mutual attraction. I know I feel so guilty right now typing this. I sound like a complete bit-on-the-side-biarch. But at the end of yesterday I told him we couldn’t do this. I deserve better than being “the other woman”. If he’s not happy (and apparently not in love) with his girlfriend then he needs to sort that out.

I haven’t heard from him since and I’m not expecting to really. I’m gutted, yes. But there is no way in hell I am going to text him and cause problems between them. He needs to be a man and do something about it if he’s not happy.

Secretly, yes, I do want to see him again. One of his texts suggested I come up with an excuse for having to stop by his work… if only I didn’t have a conscience!

Cheap.

new-zealand-dollar

One trait I severely dislike in a man is cheapness. If a man asks you out for dinner, he pays! Sure I’m happy to go dutch, but surely the first date when he asks you out is his shout?! I have been on four dates with The American now and we have gone dutch every time. Well technically the first date was just a drink, not that he bought me one. Second date was a concert he was going to with friends that he invited me to. I text him during the day saying “how much was the ticket, let me know how much I owe you.” To be honest I half expected him to reply saying “don’t worry, my treat”, instead I got “it was $25, thanks“. WTF $25?! I could understand if it was a huge cost. But bloody hell… Even while at the concert I was sharing bottles of wine with two of his female friends! At one point one of his male friends asked me why I didn’t have a drink!
Of course if a man pays for a meal on a date I am more than happy to return the favour and pay the next time. But if he can’t even take that risk that there will be a date two and that I will offer then I’m not so keen.

I was keen on this one after two dates, but after four I’m not sure that I can handle it. I used to put it down to him being American so maybe it was all a bit different, but no – that’s just an excuse I’ve put in my head.

I text him yesterday (Friday) after staying over at his place on Thursday – just a casual text asking how his day was. His response (which I received within seconds): “Lame, I’ve had to work for the last few hours.” Wow. End of conversation right there. It’s now Saturday and I haven’t heard from him, not that I replied to his text – why the hell would I?!

That pretty much screams NEXT to me.

new beginnings

of two things;

photo #1

Today marks the beginning of my 365 photo challenge I am completing on a special blog over here. I am going to try and post my photo daily so I don’t end up with a huge back log!

I have also been dating a Texan (I know! right?) man for just over a week now. Tonight will be our fourth date. Sure it sounds fast, but it’s all been very calm and casual. We’re only on first base (I had to get him to explain the ‘base’ system…) even though there have been tempting times! But what’s the rush? It’s good to find out if we’re compatible in other ways. He marks the first American I have ever dated. So lets see how things pan out with this one…

And yes, I already asked him… he did not bring his cowboy boots and hat with him. Apparently he never owned any… *cough*bullshit!*cough*