You know when you have those catch up’s with friends you haven’t seen in 12 months or more? They can go either way really; school and university friends that you barely see can be hard work or just like old times. Girls are terrible and can have an agenda behind these catch up’s – kind of a check list of “is my life better than yours?”. I can’t say that I actively go out to try and ensure my life is better than a friend’s, but no-one wants to feel like the loser that hasn’t achieved anything since high school.
I had a catch up last night with a girlfriend from university and it was nothing like that. She was fantastic. We literally did not stop yapping about life, events, and of course those odd car-crash mutual friends we share. You all do it. Don’t judge. She often pops by my blog and told me she’s not impressed when there’s no gossip to catch up on. It was so lovely to see her in person though, and share the stories properly. She heard of my heartbreaks in the past year, my travels and future plans and I heard of hers. It was so inspirational! These are the people you need in your life and I’m sorry we hadn’t caught up sooner. We’ve booked in a coffee/beach walk date for this Sunday and I’m thoroughly looking forward to it.
During one of our relationship topics we veered off into the topic of the five languages of love. What an eye opener. She explained to me the basics of the five types; Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch. Of course I took the wee quiz they have on the website, but was correct on my assumption of which of the five I would be: Physical Touch. I reflected on the men I’ve been with and they’ve all been completely different. I questioned her on the importance of finding someone who matched your language. She stated quite simply; you don’t need to match, you just need to understand what language your partner is, and vice versa. Relationship gold.