I’m in one of those confused states and I don’t know what to do or how I really feel. It concerns the love life of course, doesn’t it always? They say you should always go with your first initial gut instinct and I do agree with that. I keep confusing the line though… I don’t know, maybe I’m still really happy being single and I’m not ready to change it. If I was ready wouldn’t I be all over this and digging my heels in?
I think I need to take a breather and put all my energy into uni, work, friends and family. Those close to me will know what I am referring to, I do want to include more details, I just don’t want to hurt anyone.
No, I’ve changed my mind, this is my blog, this is my space to vent. I’m not ready. I’m sorry if you read this. But it’s not right for me. I’m enjoying single life right now and it’s all just become too complicated and too intense. Sorry. I should be over the moon, but I’m not and that is what worries me.
When you’re ready to be with someone you will know and everything will feel right about it! If you’re left confused and wondering then that person isn’t for you for sure. Don’t over analyse the relationship process, just enjoy dates – if you want to go on one, then do. If you don’t feel like it, then don’t. And don’t worry about hurting anyone; unless you’ve committed to a relationship with them then it’s okay to admit you’re not ‘feeling it’, without having to explain yourself or apologise.
@Alex
Made me feel a whole lot less guilty about the whole situation…
You’re right! Thank you honey
I was in the exact same situation this week. I had a date lined up with a guy who I knew from when I was younder, we went to the beach and had lunch which was lovely. However, all week I had absolutely been dreading it, I just had this feeling that it wasn’t going to be right, he has invested himself in us being together that it had freaked me out a bit, seeing as we hadn’t seen each other in about 10years! He had wooed me all week with sweet messages and compliments (which I don’t usually take very well anyway) which had overwhelmed me. In a way I felt obliged to see him, not because I was actually interested.
I think I am now at the stage where I know what I want, like and whats for me and I can detect that pretty quickly, so from now on, if my gut tells me that it’s wrong and I am not 100% sure about meeting up with someone, I am not going to do it- I have far more important things in my life which I should be investing my time and energy in. I feel like i have let him down, but as one of my friends saud last night “there is no point in being with someone because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, you have to do whats right for you, you are your number one.”
Whatever you do, don’t feel guilty, there really is nothing wrong with putting yourself first in these situations.
Goodluck with your studies!
@Alice
wow! what a fantastic comment and thank you so much for your advice.
I hope your situation has been ok to cope with. The man in my scenario, thankfully, has been a complete gentleman about it all.
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