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Torn.

Date night with Marina man was lovely. Drinks turned into dinner (which he insisted on paying for) and then turned into a walk on the beach, and I made it home by midnight. He’s a sweetie, and cute to boot, but something wasn’t quite right. I mean, apart from the fact he doesn’t want to travel (“I may go to Fiji one day, but have seen enough of the world on the news.”) and isn’t really interested in buying a house, we just seem to have nothing in common except the love of boating. I’m also skeptical to start anything, and then end up ending it, as we work right next to each other.

The reason I’m torn? Mr Christchurch (aka the traveller) – yes, he loves travelling, like me. This tweet was regarding him. He hasn’t moved to Auckland yet, so I’m not keen to put my whole life on hold for him. But at the same time he’s the only man I’ve ever met and felt immediately attracted to in every aspect. Even if it doesn’t turn out to be him who’s the lucky (*cough cough*) one to end up with me, surely it would be someone whom I have the same instant attraction to?

Turning 27 this year has made me realise I am super picky when it comes to men now, which everyone tells me is not a bad thing, and I agree. It also means I have realised I’d rather be single than with a lackluster man just for the hell of it.

Suggestions and advice welcome.

The love life status:

She’s pretty dormant right now. Sure I had fun and flings overseas, but back here in NZ there are no potentials for moi. To be honest I am not worried, I had some good (but not great…) news regarding Mr Christchurch (aka my 10/10) and Mr Navy has definitely nailed his coffin.

So first up the negative. I received a few messages via facebook from Mr Navy while I was away; just asking about my trip, if I was having fun, if I had run out of money… that sort of thing. Kind of flirty, but nothing to lead on that he missed me or was going to do anything when I returned. Which is how it turned out. I’ve been back a week tomorrow and haven’t heard from him, no phone call, no text, no facebook, nada! So that’s easy, right? Now removed from facebook, removed from my thoughts (except to write this entry).
If he does contact me at all for any reason I have been advised by two males friends and my male boss to ignore and not respond or reply. Done. I can do that. It’s time to move on.

In more positive news, I saw Mr Christchurch’s brother on Tuesday night at pub quiz, where he informed me that his brother is now single and does in fact really like me and would like to date me (his words…). So what’s stopping him you ask? The fact that he lives at the opposite end of the country to me. I do understand that. Long distance has never proved to be the easiest form of a relationship and really there’s no rush. Hopefully he comes up for a few visits and then moves here as soon as he possibly can. But hey, it’s always nice to know the feelings are mutual!

So right now I’m over the love life issues. I’m not looking and don’t have any potentials lined up. If Mr Christchurch moved up it would be a whole different story, of course. It has made me realise though; if I can find someone who is my 10/10 and returns the feelings I have, I am definitely not settling for anything less. We shall see what 2010 holds for the life of the girl dubbed the New Zealand Ms Bridget Jones.

Just when you had forgotten…

Tonight I was at pub quiz with Christchurch-man‘s brother. They are so alike it reminded me of Christchurch-man and what a great guy he is. It made me re-think my whole idea of men. I haven’t met anyone like him. It made me realise how much he really is my “type”. I know we’re not supposed to have “types”! But I’m sorry, I do! He’s the only man I’ve met that I have instantly thought; “wow! he’s perfect!“.

He’s back in Christchurch now and has a girlfriend. Slight technical issues. Apparently I have come up in conversation a few times with his brother; and what would they really have to chat about me? No I’m not going to pine over him. I’m just not going to forget about him. He’s up in September for his brother’s birthday ‘do – which I am now invited to. Two weeks to be looking A-MA-ZING! Don’t you go thinking I’m going to be making any moves! I’m not that kind of girl. But I can look great for the event, can’t I?

He is said to be moving to Auckland next year. If it happens it happens, and if not I’ll – a) meet someone just as fantastic – because there has to be more out there! or b) wind up an old spinster with 12 cats – which would seriously suck because I detest cats.

the next chapter…

A quick side note: I was out last night celebrating the end of exams with friends, when one admitted to me that she regularly checks my blog (I interrupted at this point with “stalker!”) to find the next chapter in my life. She continued to say she knows all that has been going on with me and the men who swoop in and out of my life through my various posts on here. I admit I was very flattered. So Miss Annie, here’s the next chapter for you; it even involves a completely new man! And of course, also for all those others waiting for the next drip of my juicy morphine or crash-cart romances?

On with the next chapter… on Monday night I went out to dinner with a group of friends and the most amazing man. Ok, maybe I should back track for a minute: I was at a friends apartment that my good friend Sarina was house sitting. I was checking out the photos displayed on the wall when one man caught my eye. “Who is that hotty?” I asked Sarina. She laughed and told me it was the friend whom she was house sitting for’s younger brother. Ah shite. Foot in mouth right there. So a few weeks later I get a message from Sarina to say: “he’s back in NZ, his brother is going to set you two up.” Uh oh. The nerves kick in. Sarina told me he was just my type, it would be perfect. She was right; except for one small detail… I will get to that.

So I’m off to dinner with three friends (that I don’t really know that well) and this amazing man. It wasn’t labeled a “set up”, but that’s what his brother was calling it when talking to me. It was dinner with friends. To be honest, I don’t think he bought it. Ha! Anyways, it couldn’t have gone any better. The two of us, at one end of the table, talked the entire time through dinner. The other three basically had a conversation between themselves and left us to it. After dinner we headed back to their apartment, everyone chatted and relaxed for a bit. Then slowly they all started heading off to their rooms, leaving him and I in the lounge. I was there until 12.30am, just talking and laughing – it was all so easy! The conversation got quite flirty and even a tad dirty at times. No no, nothing happened!

The gentleman that he was, he walked me to my car said goodnight, gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. I was sold. I had to keep telling myself; “my God Bron! you’ve only known this guy five hours!” Sounds too perfect right? Yeah it is.

He lives in Christchurch (other end of New Zealand to me)! He said he’d be up to visit and that I should head down there to see Christchurch. It’s just not the same! So unfair. He’s serious boyfriend material.

We will just have to watch this space I guess… He’s off to America in May next year; hence his name on my blog is “the traveller”. But then apparently he could move to Auckland. Yes, this is a whole year away. So I’ve decided  I just need to keep him in the back of my mind, be his friend, maybe go visit. But try not to get too involved/attached – YEAH RIGHT!
His brother told me to be his friend and once he moves to Auckland I should pounce! And not in my usual cougar styles, because this one is a year older than me. ;)